April 29, 2007

  • just friends

    how do you tell someone you want to be friends without sounding like an asshole?

    here is the hard thing, i really do just want to be friends. AND. i like some one else, so i cant use the ole "im not ready for a relationship" route.

Comments (6)

  • You say..."There's nothing wrong with you, but I'm not feelin' you like that. I think your cool, and hopefully you can handle just being my friend without any weirdness." You see, by saying that, you're not hurting his ego, AND you're putting the pressure on himself and his manhood (that he IS able to handle the situation in a mature way) to be cool with it. Now you're free to go hump someone else. Well, that sounds a tad rude...how about...now you're free to go try and work things out with the guy you have your eye on. Have a good one.

  • yeah thats always a tough situation

    I usually say that I just recently expressed interest in someone Ive liked for while and as flattered as Im by your interest I dont want to be rude to this person and go for someone else after I told them I was interested in them. But I really enjoy our friendship and hope this doesnt affect it.

    something along those lines'll work 90% of the time. Though you usually want a similar story in mind beforehand, if they express interest in you and you take a long time to answer itll be ovious to some people that its a bullshit excuse. But almost 90% of the time I say this they believe it.

  • No matter how you do it he is likely going to feel like he isn't good enough.  Xcholo4u has  a pretty good thought there though.  The first part of his comment anyway.   And don't wait too long, just straight up tell him the truth.  Gently.

  • Just be honest, however brutal it may be it's better than leading him on and then saying I don't like you.

  • Uhh, I may have the opposite problem. I have a bit of a crush on a guy who doesn't quite get the whole "crush" part of it. And the guy, well, were good friends. I don't wanna hurt that. Becuase, I admit, I'm a coward like that. ANd yeah, I had a problem that we both agreed we should be friends. It didn't turn out...great.  But then I realized he was a jerk. Because the next day he had a girlfriend, and the same day, he cheated on her. So, you know, didn't hurt me as much as it should. Yeah, good luck. ANyway you do it, its always going to sting. So get it over with, and after a time, maybe you all can start over, just as friends. Because it'll definitley take time for him to come around, but its the right thing to do!

           *S*T*A*R*S*

    P.S. I may have a ...ahem...minor obsession with scrubs. and the office. and CSI:Vegas, New York. And Numb3rs. and Grey's Anatomy (So a girl cant have a soap occaisonally?). And..k, I'll stop.

  • Dear Hollis,

    I commented on your videos last time I visited, and I want to thank you for the return comment on my blog. I was hoping you'd check out my latest video as well, accessible from the "video" link on my blog. It's called Cultural Blender. (You commented on my entry including the vid but you only RYC'd so I don't know if you saw it or not.)

    I would think it would be rather easy just to announce that you wish to be friends. Don't ever say the term "just friends" however, to a guy.

    Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool

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